I am just not enjoying college?

Q: So, I have been in college for a little while now, and I really miss my home. I love my house and I am extremely close with my family and my dog. I am actually getting upset right now typing this. anyway so my roommate is an insane baby. He takes gummi-vitamins and I caught him going through my clothes this morning. he never leaves the room and is always there (and i need SOME time alone) The social scene is weird here, basically if you dont go drink at some frat house you have no friends. I'm in the city and its a huge adjustment. My parents are taking me home for this weekend. I just need to get away. Any advice, I just dont know what to do...

A: While it's possible that this college is a poor fit for you, it's also possible that it's too soon to tell. Things like whether or not there's a big party/frat scene and distance from home are good reasons for picking one university over another. I, for example, purposefully picked unis that had a weak-to-non-existant frat scene. So this uni may not be a fit for you. But before you can decide if you need to transfer, try to get yourself involved on campus there. Join some clubs based in interests that you have - ideally the types of clubs that are high intensity rather than just go to a meeting clubs. Things like drama, the newspaper, band, intramural sports, chess club, roleplaying games clubs, radio stations, tv stations, tend to require you to spend intense time there, and that sort of environment spawns friendships. If you can get involved with people who have similar interests to yours, you may find a social scene that doesn't involve frats. Speak to your RA and to the Residence Director for your residential area about your roommate. Sure, he's weird, but he's also going through your stuff, which is not okay at all. Maybe they can help you make your immediate situation more liveable, or if not, they may be able to move you. While you're doing that, look into other schools that you might want to transfer to, in case this doesn't work out. Use sites like the Princeton Review, and www.collegeboard.com, to find unis that you like that are a bit closer to home, and which aren't huge party schools, and which don't have much of a Greek scene. Visit each one. Apply to a few, if you decide you need to transfer. Because it may be that this uni just isn't the right fit for you. But another one will be. You can find it.

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